Wednesday, April 17, 2019
Mindset Thoughts for April 2019
So I've been trying to figure out working on my mental game. I've done lots of reading and listening to podcasts. Many things repeat.
That's made me reflect a lot. Here's what I feel a big idea that I've had in my mind since yesterday.
I have many challenges, as we all do. What I've realized is that I've let things that are challenges become walls. In my mind this means is that I've let parts of my life become anchors, super-heavy and don't let you move (I know there are positive ways to see anchors) when they really were/are more like giant stones that are challenging me to grow.
Went to a funeral over the weekend and the sermon centered around the idea of not taking advantage of suffering. It made me reflect and we had a long drive home after the service so I'm guessing this percolated in my head. I realize I'm not into promoting suffering. I do think that all of us have some struggles and those can help us grow, or become suffering. It would be suffering if it is actually harming us beyond repair.
So now I'm working being able to always strive to look at the inconveniences, challenges, stresses, etc. in my life as opportunities to grow. There are some things in my life that may not change. In fact, odds are they will stay the same or get worse. However, for me to move forward I need to own that as a possibility, yet work as though they will change and trust that I can figure out how to move things forward. This is true in my home and work life.
Remembering how much of what I value in life has been a result of hard work will be key. Before my Jefita passed I tried talking with her about how the rough patches based on her decisions were part of what made me "me." She took it as bad and as a critique. I am not sure that she ever fully heard that while it wasn't great, that I'm a better person because of it.
I have been ruminating on mistakes and outright harmful things I've done in my life. I'm realizing that it is important to own them and then forgive myself and let them go. I've also done some good things in life and I want to own them.
A colleague called me humble today. We had a good talk about that. So many things to consider and ponder.
For now I'm going to focus on the reality that there are few anchors holding me stuck. Looking at the challenges that come at me as opportunities to overcome. As often as possible to find a way to have some joy in overcoming them. Another step is looking for challenges that can help me be prepared for those that aren't invited.
One of those will be starting to run. I may also swim. Doing more outdoors stuff, etc.
The other day I wrote about having energy, and had a couple of messages appreciating that. Since I like metaphors I'm going to use this as much as I can. When I feel tired and want to just stop I'm going to think of a shark. My understanding is that they need to keep moving to stay alive. Obviously adequate rest is important and I'll try for 7 or more hours of sleep a day. Outside of that I'll see how often I can keep moving in some form. Even if it is slow I'll see if I can keep making progress.
It's an experiment. I get to try lots of stuff and see what works. Hopefully I keep learning and growing!!!
KEEP GRINDING!!!
That's made me reflect a lot. Here's what I feel a big idea that I've had in my mind since yesterday.
I have many challenges, as we all do. What I've realized is that I've let things that are challenges become walls. In my mind this means is that I've let parts of my life become anchors, super-heavy and don't let you move (I know there are positive ways to see anchors) when they really were/are more like giant stones that are challenging me to grow.
Went to a funeral over the weekend and the sermon centered around the idea of not taking advantage of suffering. It made me reflect and we had a long drive home after the service so I'm guessing this percolated in my head. I realize I'm not into promoting suffering. I do think that all of us have some struggles and those can help us grow, or become suffering. It would be suffering if it is actually harming us beyond repair.
So now I'm working being able to always strive to look at the inconveniences, challenges, stresses, etc. in my life as opportunities to grow. There are some things in my life that may not change. In fact, odds are they will stay the same or get worse. However, for me to move forward I need to own that as a possibility, yet work as though they will change and trust that I can figure out how to move things forward. This is true in my home and work life.
Remembering how much of what I value in life has been a result of hard work will be key. Before my Jefita passed I tried talking with her about how the rough patches based on her decisions were part of what made me "me." She took it as bad and as a critique. I am not sure that she ever fully heard that while it wasn't great, that I'm a better person because of it.
I have been ruminating on mistakes and outright harmful things I've done in my life. I'm realizing that it is important to own them and then forgive myself and let them go. I've also done some good things in life and I want to own them.
A colleague called me humble today. We had a good talk about that. So many things to consider and ponder.
For now I'm going to focus on the reality that there are few anchors holding me stuck. Looking at the challenges that come at me as opportunities to overcome. As often as possible to find a way to have some joy in overcoming them. Another step is looking for challenges that can help me be prepared for those that aren't invited.
One of those will be starting to run. I may also swim. Doing more outdoors stuff, etc.
The other day I wrote about having energy, and had a couple of messages appreciating that. Since I like metaphors I'm going to use this as much as I can. When I feel tired and want to just stop I'm going to think of a shark. My understanding is that they need to keep moving to stay alive. Obviously adequate rest is important and I'll try for 7 or more hours of sleep a day. Outside of that I'll see how often I can keep moving in some form. Even if it is slow I'll see if I can keep making progress.
It's an experiment. I get to try lots of stuff and see what works. Hopefully I keep learning and growing!!!
KEEP GRINDING!!!
